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The child is father of the man. As the saying suggests the experiences of childhood determine a person's character as an adult. A child is a small human being who needs 15-20 years to become a parent good enough to provide his or her own child with the essential advice and help for life. Parents teach their children with the aim to make them able to begin their own life. The question is what way should it happen. Whether it is better to fill their cerebral convolutions up with dry facts in two hours five times a week and hope that the next Einstein is going to enhance the family's reputation, or we had better give thanks that our offspring is given a happy childhood in today's rather neurotic world.

The Better Baby Institute founded in America implies the first one. Where else could this idea find more fans if not in the 'Land of Dreams' where everything is possible even producing an unsurpassable genius from our child by following the 89 instructions of Mr Glenn Doman, who guarantees satisfaction in return for $490. It has been left out from the 'recepee' that every child has a different character so they probably also need a different treatment. It would be against nature to force a child to do something it is not comfortable with. The only truth in the article is that an average child is capable of attaining much more information than a well-educated adult, but yet at the school it becomes clear what its real fields of interests are. A child who is superb at all subjects, either has a high IQ-rate or has a botched up childhood of not having enough time to relax because of learning constantly. Parents cannot multiply their child's intelligence by overwhelming them with data. A child is not a speciman copy to amaze the neighbours. Children have their own inside world and the main task of parents is to show them the way how to find happiness and satisfaction in life. A child is innately innocent and naive trying to imitate the adult's life and behaviour. Children believe everything they hear and see is true and it depends merely on us what they will turn out to be in their adulthood. We have to look after them with responsibility for their future being prepared to answer all their questions and showing our love so that they could feel secure. Children often find themselves in situations which they need to understand to become gradually mature.

Everybody of us is contuniously seeking the aim of our life and children are the same. Parents have to take time to explain them the unknown parts of life to strengthen their self-confidence so to be able to come to deceisons in certain situations later when being on their own. There must be a trustful relationship between the child and the tutor to give the child the feeling that its problems and mixed up feelings from the events happening around can find solution and that later he or she will be able to overcome the difficulties coming in way.That should be the way of preparing them for independent life.

A very sad characteristic of our age is the disappearing of real fairytales and bed-time stories. Instead of that kids are playing with Barbie-dolls dressed in tiny posh evening dresses what absolutely distorts their sense of reality. They are stuck to computer games all day long growing up not being able to distinguish a horse from a cow. Apart from parents it is exactly the fairytales that can give the child solution for their problems. It has been the entire task of fairytales ever since they exist. Today, as well as in the old times, they could teach both talented and average children to recognize the higher values of life, they can show what experiences a child needs to have its character improved. Fairytales suggest that anybody can reach a happy full life but only on condition that one does not run away from difficulties because the way to a real personality leads through learning. Bedtime stories should take a great part in children's education and parents should put emphasis on providing them with story books and discussing the moral of them with their children.

There was no need for a 'hyper-super' toy for Mozart to become a genius, if somebody gets the right amount of stimuli and has the essential gene group, it will probably show its effect. It is naturally given to our world that the relation between people with high IQ and people less clever is in balance. We cannot expect everybody to give a performance above average because the results might not satisfy us. Let's take look at the suicide level of the Japanese students. Parents rushing their children into studies often do not even relize to what degree they burden their children.